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Sexual Issues – Premature Ejaculation and Erectile Dysfunction

Sexual difficulties may begin early in a person’s life, or they may develop latter on. A problem may develop gradually over time, or may occur suddenly. The causes of sexual difficulties can be physical, psychological, or both.

Emotional factors affecting sex include both interpersonal problems (such as marital or relationship problems, or lack of trust and open communication between partners) and psychological problems within the individual (sexual fears or guilt, depression or past sexual trauma).

Some common conditions include:

  • Inability to attain an erection
  • Inability to maintain an erection adequately for intercourse
  • Delay or absence of ejaculation, despite adequate stimulation
  • Inability to control timing of ejaculation
  • Lack of interest or desire in sex (loss of libido)
  • Inability to feel aroused
  • Pain with intercourse

Hypnotherapy and sexual issues

Hypnosis can be a very useful in the treatment of sexual problems including premature ejaculation and impotence. It is important that any physical factors are ruled out before treatment of using hypnotherapy is sought. With sexual issues as with many others it is common for anxiety, stress, guilt, an inability to relax, nerves and confidence to be the root cause. Both hypnotherapy and NLP are excellent at helping overcome such issues and together we can work towards your solution state.

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Pornography Addiction   –   click  HERE

Not only confined to men, but as a problem it is probably more widespread in men. This behaviour may have started in a very low key way and often during or before puberty, it can and does for some but get out of control and can cause distress for the man who feels addicted. I’ve worked with men, and help them stop, who state that they have watched up to 8 hours a day! 

Men (and women) will obviously engage in watching porn overwhelmingly in secret and alone; and feel guilt and various other negative emotions, they may also feel trapped as well as addicted. Some have been caught and their partners have found it objectionable, some relationships will end if or when someone is caught. And also for his family if it is discovered it can a detrimental effect on various aspects of family dynamics. 

In fact according to research about 50% of women do also watch pornography, and there are many reports on this subject.

Rest assure help is at hand and both hypnotherapy and NLP are great ways of getting to the bottom of any inner issues regarding this, there is likely to be a root cause for any compulsion to watch. Once this is discovered we can and will move on to ways to stop this addiction.

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The Average Penis Size, Anxiety and BDD – body dysmorphic disorder

There are many studies into this subject and it is something which causes many men anxiety and in some cases goes into body dysmorphic disorder or BDD. There are many reasons as to why men feel that their penis is small which include ‘studies’, seeing men in porn, other men boasting, being ridiculed or teased by an ex-partner and being compared to a partner in a relationship – actually its likely to be a combination of these.

The trouble with the many studies and surveys is that it involved men stating their size and with no real or scientific measurement being made and then when compared to studies where actual measurements were made there was a large and notable difference. This, as with measuring any length is very easy and impossible to fake or cheat. So the only studies which are worth taking notice of are the scientific studies. The largest study which in itself is based on 17 scientific based studies was completed in 2015.

According to that study the average penis size 5.19 inches (13.2cm) in length and 4.6 inches or 11.6cm in girth (or circumference) when erect. The details of that study …. The research was published in the British Journal of Urology (BJU) 2015. The study took measurements from 15,521 men – so a lot of men, who were measured in a scientific method and measured by someone else and were measured at these measurements – there can be no doubt that’s the metric system and the imperial system cannot be lied about.

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Further reading – AskmenMail-OnLine

From the a Female Perspective 

The perfect penis may be SMALLER than you think: Women prefer ‘slightly above average’ appendages – but are less bothered about size in a long-term relationship – for the full articile please click – here

From this study and using hands-on testing, really this is how they conducted the test! A number of women were given to hold 33 models of plastic manhoods and asked to pick their personal favourite 2; one for life or longterm partner and the other for a ‘one night stand’ or ‘fuck buddy’ or however it was framed.

The Importance of Testosteroneand how it helps with male issues

Testosterone, a hormone produced primarily by the testicles, is often associated with the epitome of “manhood” (although women have testosterone too). It is the ‘thing’ which makes men, men. It plays a large role in male sexuality and reproduction, impacting such factors as sexual and reproductive function, muscle mass, and hair growth, but also has other functions and equally important, roles like maintaining bone density, levels of red blood cells and a sense of well-being. Beginning around age 30, a man’s testosterone levels begin to decline, and continue to do so as he ages.

Men need a certain level of testosterone and without it – it can lead to sexual dysfunction, physical, emotional and mental health problems. There is much research into this and the general T-levels within men are decreasing.

The Positives

High T-levels are associated with leadership, dominance, competiveness, belief in the self and self-confidence. T-levels are also associated with a healthy libido, increased stamina, greater strength and good energy and mood levels. High t-levels also decrease the risk of obesity, heart disease and heart attacks. 

The Negative … 

In some individuals a high level of testosterone can lead to aggression, anger, road rage, get-even rage and other negative actions.

However this can also be because they lack emotional intelligence, having bad impulse control, bad stress and anger management strategies, being psychopathic, sociopathic and maybe are influenced by many other aspects of modern society which lead people into thinking ‘might is right’ or on the values of ‘one-up-man-ship’.

The Solution:

Clearly a balance is needed because competitiveness, leadership qualities, having good levels of competence, confidence and belief in oneself are not only good qualities and values – they are also attractive values and important qualities and strengths to have.

And obviously without any aggression or negatively to others.